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A hyphenated name would be a terrible combination for our particular names. We'd discussed splitting them... girls take my name, boys take his name... but that idea feels problematic to me. I like the idea of the kids having a unified family name. At the same time, it makes me feel a bit strange to think of my kid having a completely different name from me. I think we've settled on my last name as kind of a second, second name, so it will be (first name)(second name)(my last name)(B's last name). It's a bit of a token gesture, and my last name will be utterly ignored, but at least it's there, y'know?
Anyway, in context of this discussion, I found this thread about men taking their partner's names quite interesting. And no, I'm not asking B to change his last name to mine -- it's just interesting to see the wide variety of creative ways people have dealt with this issue.
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some people blend their two last names when they get married.
i know of a couple whose last names were Stone and Burrows, now they are Stoneburrows. sounds sort of british, right?
as long as the first name is Cyan or Cyanne, everything's cool!
I like the Stoneburrows name! See, when it combines so well, it helps. Ours would just be... awkward. It would sound a bit like a disease, or an exotic insect.
we toyed with both changing our last names to Vader.
then we'd have to get a couple of fish, and name them Ella Vader and Garth Vader.
Shar Vader totally sounds like a super villain. I like it!
tell all of the relatives that you've decided to do this! they would freak!
well, i assume yours would freak. ours would not. heh heh.
This was all very influence by my having grown up with a total of *counts* FIVE last names, counting hyphenated combinations. So I'm not terribly attached.
Personally, I think hyphenated names are a bit awkward and kind of a pain in the ass (I mean, forms only give you so much space to write in your name). I like the idea of one of your names being used as an actual middle name instead of lengthening the surname.
For those who aren't too attached to their name as part of their heritage, I love the idea of creating a brand new name. It seems like kind of a new start. A brand new chance to start screwing up a whole new line!
When we first got married, I took my husband's name, and after about three years we both switched to MY original name (yay). It works well for us, but of course, wouldn't for everyone (not many dudes are both willing to shed their existing surname in aide of creating a "maiden name" for themselves). ;)
God damn, I had the term "maiden name".
I didn't know you guys use YOUR last name. Rock! That is super cool, and speaks well of your man.
We are now discussing the idea of B adding in my name to his as a second second name! I can only imagine the raised eyebrows we'd get over that one... ;)
Then again, we have six weeks to go and no name for the poor little guy at ALL, so we'll probably make the whole name decision at once.